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January 23, 2004

Note to self: Calm down, Calm down!

John's comment below gave me a much-needed impetus to step back for a moment. It's incredibly easy to get seduced by the drama of all this - even to create drama - but one of the things to remember is that under other circumstances Vicky would be sitting safely at home and the baby probably wouldn't be coming out for a good few days - perhaps even weeks.

She feels fine, and all these interventions are doctors trying to bring things on earlier than her system naturally wants to, in order to keep the doctors comfortable and minimise risk. And yet - despite my post about do vs do to - I'd kind of got swept along with their conveyor belt and am starting to talk about things 'not working' as though Vicky is ill. (Saves essay on innate combative nature of medical viewpoint for later - and John Diamond's stuff on not 'fighting' cancer did it better anyway)

Anyway, things are moving along very nicely thank you, and I found out last night that's why there were no more gels. Vicky's getting lots of backache, and the occasional contraction, and needs to do lots of hip-wiggling when she's standing. These are all good signs.

There was a bit of me that thought I might get a phonecall during the night, but I know in my heart of hearts that's a mixture of selfish reasons - the need for a good story in the film of your life, wanting all this hassle to be over, and wanting her home again.

It'll come when it's good and ready. And now I must get dressed and go to hospital. Further reports as and when I get them.

Posted by Tom Dolan at January 23, 2004 07:39 AM

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Thinking of you both. Especially you Vicky. Lots and lots of love.

Nairn x

Posted by: Nairn at January 23, 2004 11:31 AM

This is nail-gripping stuff Tom! Glad all is well. 'All good things come to those who wait' - funny how true those corny cliches are. Maybe 'Patience' would be a good middle name...

Anyway, lots and lots of love to Vix.


Posted by: Lisa Gordon at January 23, 2004 12:12 PM

We're all on the edge of our seats, gaping at your blog waiting for more news.

And Lisa, Patience is a horrible name, what are you thinking? What about Tardy instead? Rolan Tardy Monkey Dolan. Excellent.

Posted by: Clare at January 23, 2004 12:26 PM


we've just discovered this...thinking about you all and hope that by the time you get home to read it the little one will have come out to say hello. Sorry. The socks to give birth in are still in the back of my car...

See you soon. lots of love xxx

Posted by: Nix and Manda at January 23, 2004 02:04 PM

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