« Christmas Cheer | Main | Essay To-Do List »

December 11, 2003

Got to get in to get out

So much stuff I want to post. So much stuff that I know I shouldn't. Even sensible points will come out wrong. Stuffing things in the linklog to come back to late. Probably.

Thanks all for the nice messages below.

In the meantime, I'm considering the downside of all that emotional armour, all those defences, all the little mental judo tricks to bat aside problems and enable me to just get on with things. Because there's someone incredibly upset deep down in here, who's genuinely run completely out of self-esteem, and is terrified at the weight of responsibility on his shoulders - the need to provide.

And 'he' can't get that upset out.

And 'I' can't get in to help.

Posted by Tom Dolan at December 11, 2003 11:57 AM

Trackback Pings

TrackBack URL for this entry:


Rest your head
You worry too much
It's going to be OK.

When times get rough...

Posted by: k at December 15, 2003 04:45 PM

What I tend to do in situations like that:

Option 1: Tell _everyone_

It's very simple logic. If a problem shared is a problem halved, then telling it to two people makes it a problem quartered, right? Tell another person, and you've got one eighth of your problem left. Tell another, and you're down to a sixteenth. Tell everyone you know, and pretty soon you've got no problem at all.

Option 2: Get Drunk.

Get very, very drunk with someone you trust completely. Both of you have to be blotto for this to work. You'll end up telling them everything that's troubling you. If you're not crying, you're not drunk enough. Have another. Spirits are best. Start early.

Option 3: Sad Films.

This one only works on your own. Watch the saddest film you can. The one that always has you choking back tears at the end of it. Because you're on your own, you don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks. Have a good cry and let it all out.

Looking back at all these options, it occurs to me they're actually all about the same thing: Catharsis. Not a word that's much in vogue these days, but I've found it helps a lot.


Posted by: Piers at December 16, 2003 02:18 AM

Post a comment

Thanks for signing in, . Now you can comment. (sign out)

(If you haven't left a comment here before, you may need to be approved by the site owner before your comment will appear. Until then, it won't appear on the entry. Thanks for waiting.)

Remember me?